Isang bagay, marahil, na sigurado ako sa sarili ko ay ang hilig ko sa pagsulat ng isang bagay na hindi ako sigurado. Habang pinagninilaynilayan ko at ginigisa ang topic sa aking utak mas lalong may nadidiskubre ako tungkol sa: 1) paksang aking sinusulat at 2) tungkol sa akin. Sinubukan kong magsulat tungkol sa leadership para sa mga single guys, at dahil hindi ako sigurado humingi ako ng tulong sa aking mga kaibigan para suriin ang aking *ehem* write-up. Nabaril ang aking first draft at ito ngayon binabasa ninyo ang aking pangalawang attempt (hindi talaga lahat ng naiisip kong isulat, o nauutot ng aking utak, ay napa-publish) Suggestion ng aking mga male friends to write something on a personal level and how, as a single woman, do I want to be led? So here goes . . .
“Frustrating” ang adjective na madalas kong gamitin sa isang lalaking hindi nagli-lead. When it calls for someone to lead at alam kong may lalaki sa grupo tahimik nalang ako at hinahayaan ko nalang sila ang kumuha ng leadership role. Kahit alam kong kaya ko naman, most of the time, I let them lead. Kahit sa mga simpleng bagay tulad ng paglead sa prayer, pagpili kung san kakain, o direction sa pagpunta from point A to point B. For some reason kapag lalaki ang gumagawa ng decision, lalo na kapag Christian men, kampante ako. Men, when was the last time you took the initiative to lead?
I appreciate my dad because he loves reading the Bible. Actually, hindi lang niya ito binabasa, kinakain niya ito; he dissects, chews, and savors every word that he reads. He would wake up every morning and read the Word, and before retiring to bed the Bible will be the one that will end his night. You see, I want to be led by someone who carefully studies the Word of God. Sabi nga sa Joshua 1:8 “Do not let the Book of the Law depart from your mouth; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it.” And here’s the promise, “Then you will be prosperous and successful.” Which brings me to my second point, I want to be led by someone who obeys and listens to God’s commands. I believe a successful leader is someone who is being led by Christ Himself. Men, when was the last time you opened your Bible and heeded God’s instructions?
Empowered daw masyado ang women sa generation na ito, kaya konti lang daw ang mga men na nagli-lead. Nung narinig ko ang reasoning na ito napailing nalang ako. Women being so empowered nowadays is just a result of men not taking the leadership part, and not the other way around. Stop making excuses and start leading! Sabi nga sa 2 Timothy 1:7 “For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love, and of self-discipline.” Lastly, I don’t want to be led by someone who’s timid, lazy, and lacks self-discipline, instead, I want to be led by someone who is anointed with the spirit of power, love, and self discipline–taking the responsibility of his leadership role to heart. Men, when was the last time you took the difficult challenge to lead?
To lead others is to serve others, and one may not appreciate serving unless they themselves have been served. Jesus is the best example of a leader. We women need men to take charge and lead us not with machismo but in the way Christ led his church (yes, even to the point of death).
Men, please I urge you to take the lead.